How do you begin?
Start with the ideology that sex is inevitable and taking about it is empowering. Best so when parents talk about it to, and with their children. Experts advise that there is no one small or big sex talk. Sex talk with children has to be an ongoing dialogue, starting when they are very young and continuing until they are married.
It is for this reason that Pastor X, a dynamic family coach, marriage counsellor and owner of Marriage Affairs and Victorine Mbong Shu, mother of 4, multiple awards-winning author and Involved Parenting Conversationalist have taken it upon themselves to educate teens on SEX. They advise parents that talking sex must be two ways, with the parent listening more and more as children get older.
According to the two, Parents should centre sex talk for teen boys around their family values, from when the children are young. In the talk, they advise parents to bear in mind that boys are action-oriented in terms of verbal communication, and it often works best to keep talks short.
For instance, say, “… make sure that you take a girl on at least two dates and know your partner well, …” Then conclude with values, respect, and love. They tell parents to make sure that they emphasis social attitudes toward sex, about double standards, etc. in these talks.
For instance, in most African cultures, men are supposed to be the hunters. This hunter can go after anything and not care because they do not bear pregnancies. Is this true? Value judgements come in here.
Always remember that you can reach Pastor X on 083 331 7350 and Victorine on 082 548 6385 for more information on their coaching offerings.
By Victorine Mbong Shu.
Victorine is in education and training since 2002. She is the CEO of Profounder Intelligence Management Services, a Peak Performance Authority Coach, a Publisher, Editor, Researcher, Transformational Speaker, Mentor, Material Developer, Facilitator, Assessor, Moderator and TV Talk Show Host at Children Television South Africa (CTVSA). She is the owner of Profound Conference Centre in Bramley-JHB. She and Dr. Fru are raising 4 bubbly children, including Africa’s youngest multiple award-winning author of chapter books, Stacey Fru. Victorine is a respectable Involved Parenting Conversationalist with a Master’s Degree in Communications. She is a BrandSA Ambassador and Awards Winning Author of the following books:
- ‘Stop Complaining! and Bring Back Involved Parenting, 2016’
- ‘Trapped in our shadows, 2017’
- ‘Proven habits for financial freedom, 2018’
- ‘S’EX, 2018’
- ‘Not too late: Bring Back Involved Parenting, 2019’