The above headline is even more aching in instances where children are involved. They cannot choose. They did not ask for this. They do not deserve it. In 2015, Victorine got called a foreigner and was asked to go back to Uganda where she came from. When the matter eventually went to the principal’s office at her children’s school, she was asked to apologise for asking the gentleman to not smoke on a school premises. The reason why she was asked to apologise was because the man was merely smoking an electronic-cigarette. Of course, Victorine is a foreigner (not from Uganda though), and yes, she did apologise.
Burning with anger after she left that meeting, she started reading up on the laws on cigarettes and smoking around school premises. In any piece of writing, she found that smoking in school premises is illegal for both adults and children. She convinced herself that maybe an e-cigarette is tolerated. Maybe it has no nicotine, or maybe it is not cigarette at all. She is still to validate these points, but Victorine thinks that she has had enough of smokers feeling like smoking is a norm, and how onlookers just either smile on or mind their businesses. ‘I hate onlookers who are patronising smokers either directly or indirectly. They are no different from those who are increasingly tolerating thieves, rapist, murderers, liars and use of foul language.’ She said.
Victorine has approached parents at sports grounds to stop them from smoking. Most of them have apologised and put out the fire, while a few have been rude and either walked away or become deaf. ‘Is there something wrong with me? The more I speak to people, the more I find siblings, uncles, aunties, grandparents and even parents smoking in and around children. You see them in cars, rooms, open grounds, you name it. Each time, you can tell that the child is uncomfortable. That most adults around are uncomfortable, that the smoker is having fun. But each time, I wonder why no one can shame these shameless smokers whom I must say, are currently swearing at me as they read this; if they read it.’
What is wrong with the world today? What is wrong with both the onlookers and the perpetrators? Are we a cursed generation?
‘Parenting has never been this tough. But as much as I want to complain that it is hard for me to raise my children in current times, I would like to continue with my plea for conscious parenting. In both my books, I mentioned that society has to be each other’s judge. Where no one looks after our children, their futures are being destroyed. Come-on, prick your conscience and look after the next generation. Do so in all format, not just financially.’ Victorine added.
Victorine Mbong Shu is in education and training since 2002. She is a BrandSA Ambassador who has transformed into an Involved Parenting Activist. She is a Researcher, a Transformational Speaker, Mentor, Assessor, Moderator, CEO of Profounder Intelligence Management Services, mother of 4 and wife. She is an Award-Winning Author of the books; ‘Stop Complaining! and Bring Back Involved Parenting,’ and ‘Trapped in our shadows.’ Victorine and Emmanuel are raising 4 bubbly children, including Africa’s youngest multiple award-winning author of chapters’ books, 10-year-old Stacey Fru. Victorine is a respectable Involved Parenting Conversationalist who holds a Master’s Degree in Communications from the University of Johannesburg.
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